Indian Life of Justification...!?!

So I've noticed that when we talk to Indian friends we seem to give justifications a lot. Why? 

I mean somehow, we end up giving explanations, convincing the other person. This doesn't happen when I talk to my friends from other countries. Have you noticed this? 

Whom we need to justify is a broad question!? 

Let’s understand the definition of justification and justice:

Justification: For me, it means giving a reason to someone for something, as they do not believe/or they do not understand your circumstances.

Justice: Justice on the other hand, is more on being truthful to play a fair game. 

Both are mutually exclusive and inclusive depending on the situation. However, there is a fine line between justification and explanation. The theory of justification gives a good insight on to human beliefs and their way of expressing the same. Following this theory, there are many layers to it, self- justification being one. Self-justification often plays a governing role in our lives, irrespective of the ethnicity.  Daniele Procide states “The process of self-justification is driven by an engine of cognitive dissonance, the discomfort we feel at the gap between our self-image and the less attractive reality that sometimes confronts us.”

Focusing on the first few lines of the opening paragraph, there are many factors influencing the ‘Indian Life of Justification’. Lets look at some of the benchmark factors like insecurity, hypocrisy/double standards, and fear of losing friendship.

I would like to call my friendship life as a ‘venn diagram’ of my friends and theirs; the process continues to increase by the day. I thoroughly enjoy discussing various topics under the sun with friends to get different perspectives and through this process knowingly or unknowingly their personality traits and thought process comes into light. No one is perfect; we all have certain levels of insecurity but a few people display this trait stronger than others.

Firstly, insecurity makes us listen to everything and everyone. Or else we won’t satiate. We can’t be let down, don’t want to let down our families. I don't know the root cause of it, but it seems to be deeply rooted in our lives, so much so that we don't know that our behavior portrays a different us. Secondly, the other factor is hypocrisy or double standards. From my experience, we claim to be Indian and talk about culture- but hardly follow it. Thirdly, the fear of losing friends can be a major personality shaping attribute.

Insecurity is present by default and more so in Indians visually. When we go to a foreign land we tend to look for people from our home country. Insecurity here is a consequence of being inferior.  Many of us walk around, boasting our rich cultural heritage. This is more opportunistic in nature; for example, in one of the current affairs book, the nationality of Dr. Venkataraman Ramakrishnan who was a nobel laureate in the year 2009 was given to be Indian. Even though he was born Indian; he holds the citizenship of the United States and United Kingdom. He has never worked for/ or in India and his research is contributed to those countries. Then why are the books claiming him to be an Indian?  There are numerous such examples.  Not giving the right recognition for the talent and/or exploitation has left us insecure. May be this is why, we want to rise by proving ourselves rather than recreating the magic! 

So peeps~ Be proud of YOUR culture! We all have our head over the shoulders, lets be like that, confident!